The virtuous woman: could you be one?

Near the end of the famous Virtuous Woman passage, we read: Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all (Proverbs 31:29). To be sure, the woman in Proverbs has me beat on many counts. I mean, when’s the last time I bought land and planted a vineyard, made my own clothes out of tapestry, or wove fine linen belts to sell? I’m afraid the answer is never.

But, I have done my best to make sure my family is adequately clothed and fed. I believe my husband safely trusts me. I try to do him good and not evil every day. I don’t work out as I should, but I have strong arms and can do what I need to. I even actively care for the poor. I strive to watch my mouth and say kind, helpful words.

Many daughters have done virtuously. Could this include me?

Oh, and the maidens part. Today, maybe it means we take good care of our dishwashers, clothes washers, dryers, and electronic kitchen gadgets, etc. I don’t know. But, maybe we’re caring for our helpers when keep those things clean and in good working order. What do you think?

The Virtuous Woman isn’t idle, and she is an example to her children. Her husband praises her.

Can this be us?

I think so.

I’ve heard this passage expounded by many people, each with a different view of this lady. Some say that she is an example for everyone, which is true. Some say she’s probably the composite ideal woman, which is probably true, as well. Others proclaim that no one woman could possibly add up to her. Well, maybe so, but she did have help to accomplish all these things. She supervised her household, and I can see that she—like a business owner today—might be able to accomplish all of it with a troop of helpers.

Can I be a virtuous woman? Yes, I think so.

Can you? Of course.

When we boil down Proverbs 31:10-31, the essence is that a virtuous woman cares for her household. She makes her husband, children, and home a priority. She works hard so that they’re provided for.

And, she loves God. Period.

Maybe the lady of Proverbs 31 truly excels them all—and outdoes the rest of us. But, maybe we qualify as some of the many daughters who have done virtuously. I hope so.

I love the end of this chapter. Such truth: Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised (verse 30).

The next verse speaks of the rewards of a woman who works hard: Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates (31). Remember, her husband is the city leader at the gate. He benefits from her care and hard work.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies (verse 10). A perfect ruby is worth more than a diamond the same weight. This lady is worth much more than rubies.

I want to be a virtuous woman.

How about you?

Do you think she’s achievable? I do.

What are your thoughts? Please share.

2 Replies to “The virtuous woman: could you be one?”

  1. I like to say she didn’t do all this in a day. 🙂 I think of this not as a checklist, but an overall picture of her character: diligent, industrious, kind, caring, thoughtful of others, etc.

    I just saw a new-to-me take on this a few days ago that went something like this: this was a mother’s instruction to her son (which it is), and you know how high mothers’ standards are. No woman would ever be “good enough” for her son, so the mother painted an impossibly high standard. And none of us can live up to this anyway, so we need to concentrate on just being like Jesus.

    I was shocked on a number of levels. First of all, this was someone whose Bible studies and devotionals I have enjoyed in the past, and I had never seen anything questionable in her writing before. Second, to say “forget about it and just be like Jesus” indicates that the NT is somehow more “inspired” than the OT. But it’s all God’s Word. Third, “just be like Jesus” — talk about an impossible standard! Yet that is what we’re called to, by His grace. Jesus and the virtuous woman share some of the same characteristics, but the virtuous woman passage fleshes them out in the home to give us a picture of how to live for and like Him there.

    1. Thank you, Barbara. Yes, saying “Just be like Jesus” is a huge ask and makes the Virtuous Woman pale in comparison. I don’t think any of us is always virtuous–and most of us fall very short–but many daughters have done virtuously. I am thankful for that encouragement. Thank you again for sharing this.

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