My mother was going to a business banquet with my father. She decided to wear a simple, elegant black dress.
While in Woolworth’s, picking up something else, she happened by the costume jewelry section and noticed a pearl necklace. It was one strand and had a “pearl” and then a tiny gold bead, another pearl, and a gold bead. Thinking it was pretty and seeing the cheap price tag of something like $3.50, she bought it. It would go nicely with her black dress.
A lady at the banquet was talking to my mother, but she couldn’t keep her eyes off of her necklace. Mama said this woman just kept staring at the necklace and didn’t even look at her face. Finally, the woman, green with envy, complimented the necklace and moved on.
I’ve often wondered if her husband later paid for a custom genuine pearl and gold bead necklace for his wife.
Perceptions can be wrong.
I know mine have been.
Just as the woman at a fancy banquet figured my mother’s fake necklace had to be real, we have probably misjudged people.
Long ago, I met a lady. She was gorgeous, proper, and quiet. I thought she was a little bit cool. Once I got to know her, though, I realized she is a warm person and has a real knack for communicating with everyone. My first impression of her being standoffish wasn’t fair. She was only timid.
Several men in our community, one who used to wear his hair very long, with dangling hoop earrings, didn’t necessarily look like the nice guys they are. It’s so easy to judge by outward appearances.
My husband and I were looking for a certain street address in a foreign country. We’d parked the car and we were looking for someone to ask. A man walked over towards me, so I asked him if he knew where the street was. As soon as I asked him, I realized he was not okay; he was on drugs. The man was very courteous, but he sadly didn’t even know where he was. I misjudged him for being a reliable source of information.
Misperceptions happen all the time.
Often, the truth is somewhere in the middle ground. And, just as often, as in the woman’s judgment of my mother’s necklace, we can be completely wrong.
Take the coronavirus prohibitions, for example. Where does the truth lie?
Are governments being wise to completely cripple their countries financially in order to control this?
Is it a health issue or a control issue? Either way, what can we learn for the future so that we don’t shut down the whole world again?
Perceptions can be wrong, half wrong, and sometimes, right.
For now, I will sit back and let others make the big decisions for me.
And, if I ever get envious of anyone’s jewelry, I’ll call in an expert first. It might be a $3.50 immitation.
Jesus said, Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment (John 7:24).
My son, forget not my law; but let thine heart keep my commandments: For length of days, and long life, and peace, shall they add to thee. Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart: So shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man. Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones (Proverbs 3:1-8).
May we depend on God for wisdom and guidance, trust Him in the darkness, and be careful about pride in these uncertain times.
God bless you.