Back when I was a child, people had crushes on other people. These were goofy pre-adolescent ideas about someone—usually only shared with our giggling girlfriends.
Some years pass, and I heard “Crushed it,” to mean, “You did it very well.” Okay….
Now, I see “Crushing hard on __________.” What goes in the blank? A thing, room, or an object. I’m surmising that this saying is close to “woot” (want one of those) from a couple of years back. Correct me if I’m wrong.
So, people are “crushing on” pocketbooks, clothing, home furnishings, and even cars. Does this mean the new objects of our emotional, adolescent-like loves are mere things? Wasn’t it bad enough when we crushed on our teachers and other older, unattainable, handsome men? (Yes, I did, and yes, I’m not exactly proud to admit it. Thankfully, if the objects of my crushes ever noticed, they never let on. They were far out of my teenybopper league, anyhow. You may giggle, if you want.)
Crushing hard on things?
Maybe it’s only a figure of speech, but it’s concerning. Our affections should be twofold—on God first and others after Him. They shouldn’t be on things.
We’re not supposed to love things.
- Jesus said, Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also (Matthew 6:19-21).
- Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth (Colossians 3:2).
- Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him (1 John 2:15).
Now, I enjoy beautiful things. I have some pretty objects, mostly that I received as gifts from my family or from other thoughtful people. Some were wedding gifts. I believe that God gives good gifts to His children, and he lets us enjoy beauty here on the earth.
I have known several people who have suffered fires in their homes and lost literally everything. Some of my acquaintances have had their homes broken into and been robbed of their valuable items. Do you know what each one of these people said? “At least we were not home when it happened, and we have our family.” Or, “Thankful that our family wasn’t harmed, though this shook us up considerably.” What was most important? People.
It wasn’t easy to lose everything, and it wasn’t pleasant to be robbed. But, people are more important than things.
I personally don’t think anyone needs to crush on anything. That’s twelve-year-old, silly behavior.
Our love, though, needs to go primarily in two directions. Jesus said, And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these (Mark 12:30-31).
The next time you’re tempted to “crush on” a thing, remember the most important things: God and people.
That’s where our affections belong.