Women of the Bible 4: Who am I?

Can you guess this biblical woman?

Who am I?

I used to swish, mince, and dance as I walked. I was beautiful.

But God took away my:

  • tinkling ankle bracelets
  • round ornaments
  • chain necklaces and bracelets
  • head ornaments, earrings
  • nose jewels
  • beautiful apparel
  • veils
  • mirrors
  • hooded capes

I was ruined.

Instead of sweet perfumes, I no longer smelled good.

Instead of a beautiful sash, I wore a torn one.

Even my gorgeous, stylish hair fell out.

There was burning instead of beauty.

I ended up sitting on the ground instead of flaunting myself.

I am an allegory, but I represent reality.

Who am I? What happened to me? Why?

Fiction review: Rhapsody in Red

Rhapsody in Red is a Preston Barclay Mystery, by Donn Taylor. I bought it because of its brilliant cover and a recommendation from Author Adam Blumer.

“Press,” a history professor in a more-or-less Christian University, and co-worker Mara Thorn, who’s a Wiccan hired in an attempt for the school to seem more broad-minded, happen upon the dead body of fellow teacher, Laila Sloan. Because they were the ones who found the body, they become the prime suspects in her murder.

The widowed professor and unique teacher team up to find out who killed Laila Sloan. The police have it in for Preston, and it seems justice won’t be done unless they can find the culprit themselves. Missing passkeys and strange computer messages are just the beginning of the dangers they face. “Press” gets clonked in the head, and Mara’s car is bombed. And that’s not all.

As they take the law into their own hands—and break a few in the process—Press and Mara are furloughed from their jobs. Things are desperate and dangerous. As Press and Mara get closer to the truth, the murderer and his accomplices get closer to them.

Press is “gifted” with weird musical halucinations that accompany to his life. I personally loved this quirky detail as well as the witty style of the author. Even though the protagonists were in danger while finding the truth, I had to laugh at all the humorous asides—and the music the author chose. The ending wrap-up is the best I’ve read in ages.

If you like a squeaky clean mystery with page-turning action and plot and a lot of witticisms, this one’s for you.

I loved it and can hardly wait to read another of Mr. Taylor’s books.

Five stars, for sure.

Six correct reactions to criticism

Criticism comes often in life. If you sit, they tell you to stand. If you stand, they say you should rest. Everyone seems to have an opinion about what you do, should do, and don’t do. They opine about how you do it, and how they think you could do it better. Normal life seems a no-win situation. What is the correct reaction?

I recently watched an interview with a young woman. She had posted something online. It was misunderstood, and bullying ensued. She was so hurt by the nasty things that were said that she had to get offline for a while.

Today’s trend is to feel victimized. I recently heard that the United Kingdom is discussing whether “online abuse” constitutes a crime. If it gains traction, a whole police task force will be needed to deal with negative words.

I’ve written before about abusive language, hate speech, and God’s law of kindness. You may want to read my posts here and here. But this post is about reactions to it.

What is the correct reaction to criticism?

First, we’ll look at wrong reactions:

  • AngerLet all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice (Ephesians 4:31). But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice.… (Colossians 3:8a)
  • RevengeDearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord (Romans 12:19). For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people (Hebrews 10:30).
  • Dwelling on the hurtFinally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things (Philippians 4:8).

Here are six correct reactions:

  1. PrayerBe careful (full of care, anxious) for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7).
  2. Apologizing, if necessary—Sometimes the fault is mutual. If you need to repent to the other person, do so. Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him (Luke 17:3).
  3. Reporting crimes to the proper authorities—Unfortunately, in Christian circles, the tendency has been to sweep crimes under the carpet along with verbal assaults and sins. If the suffered hurt was actually a threat or crime, it should be reported to police. Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.… For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil (Romans 13:1, 4).
  4. ForgivingThen came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven (Matthew 18:21-22).
  5. Moving forward—Leave the junk of the past in the past. The Apostle Paul said, One thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:13b-14).
  6. Not revisiting old hurts—One of Satan’s best weapons against Christians is encouraging them towards wrong thinking. Once you have dealt with a hurt in a biblical manner (above), you can put it behind you. When that hurt pops into your mind again, dismiss it. There are two ways to do this. One is learning Philippians 4:8 thinking (passage above). The other is to discipline our thoughts through the power of God. (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:4-5).

So many Christians today experience defeat in their lives because someone hurt them. Yes, the hurt was real and deep. We should not minimize it or brush it aside.

It must be dealt with correctly so the Christian can move forward in victory.

Jesus said, I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly (John 10:10b).

God bless you and help you overcome.

Your Kids in Church? 8 Practical Tips for Parents

Today’s churches are struggling to keep the younger generation. Their parents are in church. Their grandparents are in church. But, there are huge gaps. I see it every time I go back to the United States. I sit near the back of the auditorium of a church of around a thousand. I look around me. Probably half of the attendees have white hair. What does that tell me? We’re not keeping our kids. (You see, I have quite a few gray hairs myself, and my kids are grown and married. They are the next generation, so I know what I’m talking about.) There’s a whole generation of teens and young adults who simply aren’t there.

Why?

It’s happening in excellent churches with Bible preaching pastors and wonderful people making up the church body. These people care. They have good families. The preaching and singing glorify God.

So, what’s the problem? Why don’t kids—teens and young adults—go to church?

I believe there are two reasons.

  • Parental values. They say that values are taught and caught. I believe there’s a lot more to it, but it’s true that children—especially from age eleven upwards—acutely understand what’s going on at home. They have the best antennae in the world. They pick up on lifted eyebrows and nuances. They can hear through walls! Your young child knows more about your real values than you know yourself. He is watching you for leadership. So, what are you doing? Oh yes, you go to church—every time the door is open. You even do one good work. It might be ladies’ meeting or a special prayer effort, a children’s outreach, or a sports night. You do one thing besides services. You’re an active member. Yet, that’s about it. Junior has never seen you open your Bible on your own. You forget to pray before meals. You don’t have family devotions of any kind. You don’t pray together about family matters. You don’t ask God to meet needs. Yet, you go to church every service. Do you know what the antennae pick up? Static. Hypocrisy. Junior isn’t convinced that church attendance actually did you any good. He’s not sure your works are an outpouring of your heart. So, he throws it all away—lock, stock, and barrel. He wants something real.
  • Parental involvement. Time is everything. Quality time is everything. You need both in parenting! I believe that a parent who invests his life—sacrificing much of his own “free time” for the good of his children—will reap the rewards. So many parents have their children signed up for lots of worthy activities after school: gymnastics, soccer, music lessons, etc. Kids are whisked from school to the activity, they grab a bite to eat at the nearest fast food and go to the next thing. At ten p.m. they’re trying to finish up their homework—and tomorrow will be the same. Families don’t have family time. They have time in the car. Truthfully, that’s better than nothing. But, they aren’t together as a complete family in non-pressure time. Kids don’t feel connected with Mom and Dad because they’re not together much. Children don’t feel free to discuss things with their parents and confident they’re loved just as they are. They’re not secure.

These children get to their teen years, and they deal with challenges by clamming up at home, and texting and hanging out with friends. They don’t relate to Mom and Dad. Unless these teens are with other church families—doubtful—they quit going to church.

What can Christian parents do?

  1. Cut down on the extras—even good activities. Children need free time for playing. They need family time and enough sleep. They do better when after-school activities are limited. Be choosy. Less is more.
  2. Make family time a priority. What I mean is that, unless it’s extremely important and rare (which kids understand), you’ll be home with your kids at least three nights a week. You do something together—all the family—on Saturdays. It can be cleaning the garage or yard work and laundry, but you are together, doing things as a family unit. Hikes, bike rides, or a visit to a neighborhood park are great, refreshing get-aways for everyone. (By the way, all family time should be phone free for everyone.)
  3. Invest in each child. Doing things along with your child creates fabulous opportunities to talk. It’s not too confrontational, because all the time you’re both doing something. Kids need to be able to express their fears, news, and concerns. They need to know that Mom and Dad are non-judgmental and safe. Moms and dads shouldn’t go around sharing what their teen told them. This builds respect, and believe it or not, these stable relationships between children and their parents contribute to the furtherance of the church.
  4. Help your child have good, Christian friends. This was difficult for us, because our children were in the “between” age group in our small church. But there was one fine young man our son could befriend, and we tried to get them together often. Our daughter had it harder. We actually found her a friend in another country (about three hours from us), and a wonderful friendship developed. It meant traveling for us and the girl’s family, but it was more than worth the effort. Please understand: our kids had other friends, too, but their closest friends were Christians. In the teen years, these friendships are vital.
  5. Be faithful to church—and involved in a family ministry. Many church families only warm the pews once a week. When the whole family is faithful and involved, children get the message that church is important. What kind of a ministry can you do together with your kids? Give it some thought and volunteer. If you can’t think of anything, ask your pastor. Most children who were actually active in church all their lives continue to be active in church. When they were involved along with their parents, they usually stay in church.
  6. Be genuinely godly. Teens know your priorities. They feel genuineness and artificiality, as well. They sniff out hypocrisy better than anyone. The family that has a sweet atmosphere because both parents genuinely love the Lord and each other will help their kids desire to love God and family. The parents who share their own Christian walk in a transparent way help their children understand how to deal biblically with struggles, how to pray, and how to trust God. But, when there’s strife, selfishness, harshness, and contradiction between words and actions, children tend to trash their parents’ “values.” Sadly, that includes the church. When parents can’t forgive nasty people in their church, it’s no wonder kids blame the church for their hurts. Show them how to biblically resolve problems and show faithfulness in spite of hurt.
  7. Pray for each child. This begins before your baby is born and continues ever afterwards. Even when your children are adults, pray for them. God can turn around the most wayward child and break through to a hardened heart.
  8. Trust God. Many times, we can’t see what God is doing. Trust Him to do what’s best for your child.

If your grown child isn’t presently in church, pray for him and trust the Lord. God cares.

I have the weirdest superpower

When I read about other people’s superpowers, I usually crack up. But I have friends with serious superpowers, too: teaching, showing mercy, organizing, “keeping kids alive,” cooking, blitz cleaning, etc. I admire every one of these ladies!

And then, there are the more unique friends: One’s hand tendons roll. Another completely flops his tongue upside down. My family can raise one eyebrow very high. Superpowers tend to be quirky, silly, and frankly … who cares?

Mine is special.

And, it’s just as weird as other people’s.

I smell things.

You might smell things, too, but probably not like I do.

I actually smell things when I see a photo.

  • Bread? Yummm.
  • Lilacs? Sweet.
  • Gumbo? Smell the shrimp and spices.
  • Roses? Those, too.
  • Gas pumps. I smell the fumes.
  • Lemons or chocolate? Yes, quite a visceral reaction.

It’s really crazy when I browse Pinterest, since photographs trigger a genuine smell reaction.

Maybe the connection between my nose and my mind has rewired. I never heard of anyone else with my goofy gift. It’s true. And yes, sometime’s I think I’m bonkers.

Did you know that God recognizes smells, too?

The priests in the Old Testament burned special incense, a recipe mandated by God Himself. It was so special that it couldn’t be used for anything except worship. And the LORD said unto Moses, Take unto thee sweet spices, stacte, and onycha, and galbanum; these sweet spices with pure frankincense: of each shall there be a like weight: And thou shalt make it a perfume, a confection after the art of the apothecary, tempered together, pure and holy: And thou shalt beat some of it very small, and put of it before the testimony in the tabernacle of the congregation, where I will meet with thee: it shall be unto you most holy (Exodus 30:34-36).

The incense burned, and the smoke of it covered the mercy seat that is upon the testimony (Leviticus 16:12-13).

God was pleased with this perfumed smoke in the air.

It was a complete sensory experience for the high priest, too. The gold, silver, brass, beautifully embroidered curtains, colors, and blood and fire filled his vision. Little bells tinkled in his ears—the bells that let those outside know he was still alive and moving around in the Holy of Holies. The cloud of incense billowed over the Mercy Seat as he made the sprinkled blood offering to cover the sins of the people for another year.

David said, Let my prayer be set forth before thee as incense; and the lifting up of my hands as the evening sacrifice (Psalm 141:2).

In the New Testament, the prayers of God’s people actually become perfume in heaven. What a concept! Our prayers smell sweet to God.

And when he had taken the book, the four beasts and four and twenty elders fell down before the Lamb, having every one of them harps, and golden vials full of odours, which are the prayers of saints (Revelation 5:8).

And another angel came and stood at the altar, having a golden censer; and there was given unto him much incense, that he should offer it with the prayers of all saints upon the golden altar which was before the throne. And the smoke of the incense, which came with the prayers of the saints, ascended up before God out of the angel’s hand (Revelation 8:3-4).

I wonder how many sweet puffs of perfume I sent up today.

How about you?